What this is
The Lavender Blueprint is the framework for people who have realized that traditional marriage — and its assumptions about attraction, sexuality, and partnership — doesn't fit them.
It was built from real experience. Marty Thomas spent 17 years performing a life that looked right from the outside. A Fortune 50 career. A conventional marriage. The whole thing. When he finally told his wife the truth — on a December night in Scottsdale — it wasn't the end of their relationship. It was the beginning of something they actually designed.
This community exists because that kind of redesign is possible — and because you shouldn't have to figure it out alone.
Where are you?
Everyone enters at a different stage. Find yours and connect with people who are exactly where you are.
Something doesn't fit.
Telling the truth changes everything.
Partnership is something you design.
Creating the life you actually want.
Living proof that it works.
The LLMA app matches you with people in the same stage of the Lavender Blueprint — not just similar values, but similar timing. Someone to talk to who actually gets where you are right now.
Guided work
Small groups, real structure, real outcomes. Not a course — a container for actual change.
with Marty Thomas · 4 weeks · Live group calls · 8 people max
For people who know they need to have the conversation but aren't ready. We build the language, the boundaries, and the courage — together.
Apply in Appwith Marty Thomas · 6 weeks · Workshop format · 12 people max
For couples or individuals actively redesigning their relationship structure. Real frameworks, real agreements, real outcomes.
Apply in Appwith Community Coach · 4 weeks · Peer learning · Open enrollment
For single people building their intentional partnership from scratch. Values mapping, profile building, and peer accountability.
Apply in AppThis isn't social media. It's designed for real conversations that actually move people forward.
Start with honesty. Build with intention. Find people who are doing the same.